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TRUTHS ABOUT THE FEMALE ORGASM
All women climax differently. There is not right or wrong way to cum. Orgasms vary in intensity and originate in different body parts from woman to woman.
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Orgasms don't come easy! Unlike for men, female orgasms require mechanical
know how, communication skills, a comfort level with the partner and mind
and body relaxation. It takes practice. Even when we know the nuances of our
bodies, it takes many different types of stimulation at the right moments
to create an orgasm. Sometimes we need harder pressure, sometimes lighter
or faster or slow. What worked yesterday may not work today. The pressure
that was pleasurable for the clitoris earlier may be too much now. The only
way our mates can know what to do is through open communication and guidance.
2) Our partners need pointers on what turns us on.
3) Intercourse alone does not cut it (for most of us)! What is considered foreplay-oral and manual stimulation is the time most women-70% experience their orgasms.
4) Not all orgasms have the same oomph! Orgasms come in all kinds of ways. Some are a quick flutter that doesn't stray from the source, others ignite a full body experience, lasting longer. One type should not be values above the others since we do not have a choice in the kind that comes. If one type is valued more than the others, performance anxiety is likely and frustration which can ruin the encounter.
5) The mind has more power than a vibrator. The mind is the gatekeeper of sexual release.
6) Getting into an open and orgasmic state of mind is key to climax. Trust and being at ease in the situation is a good base to build on. Concentration on the experience and being fully present to the situation will help open the gates. Orgasm is also more likely if our emotional connection to our partner is fully functioning.
7) Orgasms aren't proof of good sex!! Some woman might disagree with this but closeness and pleasurable sex that does not include an orgasm can be extremely satisfying. For many of us, tender caresses, naked.